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11/11/2009
Confidence GT – a guide for self-confidence developed by one of the persons I admire the most and, as such, aroused my interest and curiosity.
I am about halfway through this process, towards a higher level of self-esteem that I know I will achieve, even if I have to repeat the tasks until I get the best I can get. More than finishing the e-book and congratulate myself, my priority and concern is to take my time, invest the maximum effort in each step, because the complexity of each step requires a different level of dedication, a different perspective and even a growing level of commitment.
According to the author, the best definition of self-confidence is the "belief or believing in you, believe that one is able to accomplish whatever is proposed, to overcome obstacles and win challenges." I could not agree more. I would also add that, in my view, self-confidence starts from the moment we have an idea, make a plan, and we design a project. In other words, it’s not believing solely in the act itself, but also and primarily in our ability to leverage ideas and actions and thus, to put them into practice.
It is with this gradual self-esteem increasing that my cathartic process related to my father’s disease has not been as painful as I first expected. Besides helping me to accept, even without understanding, I am able today to deal with the daily uncertainty that persists in my family life. I do not feel afraid of tomorrow’s uncertainty and I have no need anymore to question why this happened. I understand that these issues for which I had no answer did not led me anywhere, I actually felt more and more bonds to a suffering that would not allow me to go through my own path.
In interpersonal relationships, I learned that I deserve more and now I am more demanding with myself and with what others give to me. In the recent past, I was part of a love triangle, because I thought it was better to have someone in part-time than to be alone. I couldn’t be more wrong. Right now, I am not alone, it’s not because I don’t have a partner that I need to classify myself with that adjective. I want a person who accepts and understands me, and loves me as I am, completely and at all hours of the day, every day.
For all this, I am now more alert and aware of my life and to what I want my life to be, and life will be what I decide it will be.
Thank you, Ricardo.
Monica Carvalho